Who Is Forgiveness For?

So frequently I hear this: Forgiveness is for you, the one who was injured.

I think this actually can be a distortion of what forgiveness is. To make this clear, let us make four clarifications.

Clarification 1: One’s initial motivation to forgive does not define what forgiveness is.  Many people, when they decide to forgive, are motivated by their emotional pain. They are hurting and they want relief. This is honorable.

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